We are still dealing with point number one in the eight step process of atoning with God, ourselves, family, and friends which is pointing out the wrong. When we desire to atone we must be willing to admit to the harsh reality that something done to us has touched us in a way that just does not function the same way, and because of a lack of self awareness we may THINK that we are okay and that we are going on with our lives like nothing has occurred. Pointing out your wrongs is a big step in becoming aware of ones self.
There was a study done on patients in the hospital where they took one group of patients and had them watch the doctor come in and give them their medication. They connected the second group to a drip line where the medication was administered automatically on a timer. The results showed that those who were able to see the doctor had a fast and more improved recovery process than those who did not see what was being done to them. This study was done in various forms and the results always improved in the area where the person was made aware of what was taking place; rather it was just them starting to pay attention to their behaviors or they just were able to observe what was being done.
What does this have to do with atonement? Well if we are not able to see or if we are not made aware that we have been wronged how can we point it out for one. Secondly if we are approached by the victim and we can not see their point of view how can we get to the second stage of this process of healing wounds if we cannot even see what is being pointed out to us?
One thing that we cannot do is tell a person how to feel, especially how we made them feel, so if they come to us and express their thoughts and emotions, who are we to say that we are innocent? It is very important that we start with self in this process of healing because we have done some wrongs to ourselves that we need to point out. It does not matter how small or large it may be even feeding ourselves food that we know is not good for us to consume, or the lack of exercise that we provide our bodies knowingly.
We all have heard the saying that when we forgive others it is not for them it is for us that are forgiving the other person. We need to open ourselves up and allow our community of broken homes to be healed so that we can get back to being a village that raise our youth to become productive and positive members of society. In order for us to start healing our community we have to uncover and address what is hurting us, such as these cliches like "there are no good black men", "black people do not trust each other", "black people are lazy", "black people do not know how to work together", "black people act like wild beast" and many more.
How do we get rid of these cliches? We start atoning with each other and stop talking about our community as if we are not a part of it. That is how we start breaking these artificial barriers that was placed upon us during slavery.
The black man has been broken and the black woman has been brought down from her original place in civilization. It is our duty to get rid of the slack talk and gossip in our community as well. All of this is a part of pointing out the wrong that we need to address.
More next issue God willing..
Your Brother and Servant
The Wellness Preacher
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Qaadir’ Naqib is the founder of “Fight 4 Life” NO EXCUSES, a non-profit organization that was inspired through his journey of losing weight. He became known as The Wellness Preacher. He has organized numerous events and fundraisers in cities from Pasadena, California to Phoenix, AZ.
In 2015, He was inspired to send a group of youth from his hometown to Washington D.C for the 20th anniversary of the Million Man March. Qaadir', who co-created J.O.E 626, grew up in a single parent home in a neighborhood known for gang violence and drugs. He was able to break free from the chains of his environment and started to mentor young males with a goal of preventing them from going down the wrong path in life. In the fall of 2016, he launched a 12 week manhood training course for young men from ages 8-18.