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“It’s ok to dislike someone, or even dislike someone for no reason, BUT it’s not okay to disrespect, degrade and humiliate that person.”
A great quote we should all strive to live by and teach our children. In a perfect world the above statement would never happen or even be a factor. Life is hard period. I know you remember being a child going through elementary, middle school, then high school. Did you ever feel like you didn’t have anyone to talk to that would truly understand? The last person you wanted to talk to were your parents, you knew that they loved you unconditionally, they had told you on several occasions you can talk to them about anything BUT for some reason they just weren’t the people on the top of your list to go to with certain situations. If you can think back on situations you went through as a child feeling alone, isolated and un-liked you know it’s not a good feeling. Multiply those feelings times 1,000 today, because of all the technology our children have access to at their fingertips. Our children are dealing with situations, emotions, and circumstances they just aren’t equipped to handle. Some of us as adults can’t even handle some of the situations, emotions and circumstances we are faced with. It is imperative that we take time out of our busy schedules to stop and check in on and with our children because so many of them are suffering in silence.
The boys and the girls, they feel alone, isolated, un-liked, misunderstood and finally hopeless. How many stories do we need to hear about of our children committing suicide for us to stop, be available and act? Just the other day 10-year-old Ashawty Davis from Colorado committed suicide because she was being bullied at school after having a fight after school 2 weeks prior, she hung herself – A 10 YEAR OLD CHILD. She hung herself after a video of the fight surfaced on the internet. There was another incident in Cincinnati where a little boy 8-year-old Gabriel took his own life 2 days after having a fight at school in the bathroom where he as knocked unconscious by another student. The school never informed his Mother that her child was being bullied until after his death, and they released video of the altercation to the Families Attorney. Why?
When we look at our children we see all their potential, all the plans we have for them, we see their excitement for life, we see the joy they bring to our lives, all the amazing things they can be or do and then we think how could someone be so cruel? Why are our children so mean? What are our children missing? The current world we live in just isn’t fair, have our children truly lost their innocence? It’s evident that our children will experience things and situations that we may have never even fathomed, and it is imperative to equip them for the harsh reality at times because if we don’t who will? If we aren’t there for them who will be, because as you can see school districts across our nation are failing to protect our babies.
I’ve known Brenda since 7th Grade, we went to Eliot together, became fast friends and the rest is history. She is one of my closest and dearest friends. A little over 2 years ago she started sharing with me how she was mentoring young girls in the community and wanted to know if I would help. Me being me and knowing her heart is always in the right place how could I say no. Our first partnership came in the form of starting a Girls Scout Troop. It was a success, we had about 10 girls we met with every week, we planned fun weekend social outings and holiday parties, I think we looked forward to meeting up with the girls just as much as they looked forward to seeing us. My favorite activity we did was preparing care packages for families at a local shelter. It was around Halloween, so the girls dressed up in their favorite costumes and we had a party. A party with a purpose of course because our girls were able to collect enough items to give away approximately 40 hygiene bags. We had a date set to go drop the items off at a local mission for Women and Children and to our surprise two of the girls in our troop had lived at this same mission. It was in those moments that I realized how important mentoring is and how impactful it can be. Spending time and caring is all that these girls were looking for, someone to talk to, laugh with, dance with, crack jokes, just have fun. Sometimes we need to be the woman or man we needed when we were young. It truly takes a village to raise children.
Two years ago, there was another incident at Eliot Middle School where a young African American girl was being bullied. The girls were calling her black, telling her she was ugly, and how they wanted to beat her up. She had informed school officials, and nothing happened until she decided to take matters into her own hands and fight back. When she fought back she was reprimanded and expelled from PUSD.
So, what’s the point in me saying all of this? Bullying is prevalent in our schools. AND my question is when will it stop? Does it have to be your child for us to wake up and realize we have a problem? Does It have to show up on your door step? Does it have to be your child who is being bullied before we take action? What can we do as a community to stop this from happening?
An 11-year-old African American girl in the 6th grade here in one of our local Middle Schools is a victim of being bullied. A group of girls started to bully her by saying mean things to her again calling her ugly and fat, they started sending her horrific text messages that left her terrified. Not only were they calling her names they were trying to convince her to kill herself. The 11-year-old victim reported the incident to her Academic Counselor who didn’t know what to do directing the young girl to go inform the School Librarian who then took the victims phone and deleted all her text messages and voicemails prior to informing her Mother or the Principle and then the audacity of the Librarian to tell the victim “You shouldn’t keep stuff like this in your phone.” This young girl went home feeling depressed and scared, rightfully so; she didn’t want to return to school. Her self-esteem is destroyed, and she is having a tough time dealing and adjusting to the things that have taken place and how could we blame her? The people she depended on to protect her let her down, them blamed her.
As soon as Brenda heard about this situation with this 11-year-old girl, she sprang into action. She was saddened by the events that this young girl has had to endure and asked what could she possibly do. A surprise Pamper Day was in order. On Friday, December 29, 2017 we will be pampering this young girl from head to toe and we will treat her like the Princess she is. Throughout the day she will be reminded of her true beauty inside and out. There will be non-stop encouragement, positive affirmations, self-esteem building activities and sisterhood bonding. The goal is for her to be able to walk away from this Pamper Day knowing that she is Beautiful, Worthy, Talented, Amazing, Smart, and Simply the Best at being herself and no one has the POWER or the right to tell her otherwise.
There are so many children being bullied and they never tell anyone, not even their parents know what they are really going through and they suffer in silence. One too many children have already committed suicide it is nothing short of a blessing that this young girl reported everything to her family and didn’t fall victim to suicide. The verdict is still out though, the School District has done the bare minimum thus far by changing the child’s classes, but she is still scared and doesn’t want to go to school. Her Mother must now figure out what her options are to keep her child protected and safe. No child should have to experience being bullied.
We are petitioning the community to help us shower this precious child with the best Pamper Day Ever! If you would like to contribute to her special day Friday, December 29, 2017 please send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org by Wednesday, December 27, 2017 and I will provide you with details on how you can play a part. (Due to the nature of events and circumstances the victim’s identity and school is being withheld to protect her privacy.)
If you know a child or if your child is being bullied at school, it is time to educate yourself on what to do. Check out http://www.stompoutbullying.org/ for pertinent information and resources.